We all go through rough times in our lives. Whether it’s a breakup, the passing of a loved one, or another traumatic occurrence, sometimes we forget how to love ourselves. We feel pain, sadness, and guilt. We want to stay in bed all day. There are times when we don’t want to talk to anyone or do anything productive. And sometimes it seems like nothing matters at all.

If this sounds like you, you should take the time to write yourself a love letter.

It can be long or it can be short, it can be on fancy stationary or it can be on a sheet of notebook paper. Your letter can be whatever you want it to be. The important part is that it is unconditionally loving, from you and to you.

I was inspired to write myself a love letter by one of my best friends who had just gone through a bad breakup. She was upset about it for a while, so she wrote a love letter to herself in order to remember how beautiful, special, and important she is.

I think the self-love letter exercise is great because I know I feel lost sometimes. There are days when I look in the mirror and don’t recognize the woman staring back at me. Earlier this year, I struggled with personal issues that caused me to lose myself for a couple of months. I wasn’t happy. And overall, I think my life is great. I’ve learned that even the happiest people struggle sometimes, and that’s okay.

No matter who you are, or what your life is like, I guarantee you that you can benefit from writing yourself a love letter. Loving yourself isn’t vain; it is the key to happiness. After you have written your letter, try reading it to yourself at least once. You deserve to hear that you are loved.


Read my own love letter below:


Dear Samantha,

I am sorry for doubting you. Ever since you were young, you have always been special. You’ve always been a thinker; you were never the most talkative person in the room, but that’s okay because you knew when to speak and when to listen. You are a dreamer, and a great one at that. You set the bar high and work hard to achieve your goals.

You are beautiful, even though you don’t always believe it. You have a good heart, and you care so much for your loved ones. You are so passionate, and your passions will take you far as long as you don’t let self-doubt get in the way.

You have been through so much, but your experiences have only made you stronger. The bad times have taught you to be tough, and the good ones have taught you to love life. 

Your independence is a quality that makes you special. You have that drive to succeed, that desire to do great things and make something of yourself. Don’t ever let anyone dull your sparkle. Shine on, girlfriend.

You are destined to make a great difference in the world, and I know you will. You are a giving daughter, granddaughter, relative, and friend. Keep your head up. The hard times are only temporary. Happiness and success are at the end of the tunnel; you just have to work hard to get there.



If you’re your own worst critic, I really recommend this exercise to you. Sometimes we need to criticize ourselves to stay grounded and become better people, but we should also make sure to love and appreciate our good qualities. So if you’re feeling down, go write yourself a love letter and remember how special you are.

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